tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4328245669601361798.post7343008667086229097..comments2023-03-07T06:58:59.729-08:00Comments on New York adoptee rights legislation will soon become law: The Promise of Adoption: Not a Promise of ConfidentialityUnsealed Initiative New York Adoptee Rightshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08768275100293874008noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4328245669601361798.post-55998766838497668382011-06-25T23:20:40.761-07:002011-06-25T23:20:40.761-07:00This is truly very sad. I was adopted and raised b...This is truly very sad. I was adopted and raised by two of the most amazing parents in the world. That does not change the fact that I was adopted. I was not told until I was in my mid 20's. My mother passed away, my natural father was alive, and I had brothers...... and half brothers and sisters.....Thank God that my father (adopted father) was a man of great vision and he told me all of the truth. My mom did not. She tried hiding the truth.......after much research..I found my "first" family.....please do not hide this from adoptees.....we deserve to know the truth...It is very TRAUMATIC...after much therapy and lots of trials and tributions I still struggle with this..Peace and Lovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13676898504088071228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4328245669601361798.post-45297540731190048142011-06-25T23:12:35.126-07:002011-06-25T23:12:35.126-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Peace and Lovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13676898504088071228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4328245669601361798.post-38014647095335768282011-06-15T16:03:30.074-07:002011-06-15T16:03:30.074-07:00I, as a birthmother, am tired and weary of being t...I, as a birthmother, am tired and weary of being the scapegoat, having State legislators saying that I am the reason my adult child cannot have her OBC because I was supposedly promised confidentiality and anonymity - from her ever knowing me. No one at any time guaranteed (or even remotely mentioned such a concept) to me anything except that I would sever all rights to her upon relinquishment. I was not told nor did I know that her OBC would be sealed or that my identity would forever be withheld from her. I did not expect that nor did I request that. I was not even given the guarantee that she would be successfully placed and adopted nor would I be told if she was not. I gave up ALL rights upon relinquishment - and was not given copies of anything that I signed (neither relinquishment papers or birth certificate, for which I provided all of the information including name of birthfather and I signed as being truthful. Ha!) To this day, even with a loving and on-going relationship with my daughter and her a-family for the past 14 years, we still have been denied a copy of her OBC.Kaye L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17482130734505893711noreply@blogger.com